Mindset Over Market: Why Regret, Resentment and Resilience Shape Property Success

In the world of property investing, most conversations focus on hotspots, yields, and lending strategies. But for those who’ve truly succeeded, there’s a common thread: mindset.

In this episode of the Australian Property Investment Podcast, host Aaron Christie-David opens the door to a deeper discussion with mindset coach Jodie Cooper—one that goes beyond the numbers to unpack the psychology of wealth-building. If you’ve ever felt stuck, regretful, or uncertain on your investing journey, this conversation will help reframe how you approach property, money, and life. Watch the full episode here.

In this blog, we’ll explore the 5 key mindset themes from the episode:

  1. Regret

  2. Resentment

  3. Resilience

  4. Clarity

  5. Connection

And most importantly, how these shape your capacity to succeed in property and life.

1. Regret: The Investor's Dead Weight

We’ve all heard it—or said it ourselves:

“I should’ve bought before COVID.”
 “I missed the boat.”
 “If only I’d started sooner.”

Regret is one of the most common emotional roadblocks for investors. And while it’s natural to feel frustrated over missed opportunities, Jodie shares that regret, if left unchecked, becomes a ball and chain.

🔑 Key takeaway: Acknowledge regret with compassion—but don’t dwell. According to research in positive psychology, when we linger in regret, our focus narrows and we become less likely to engage, grow, or take action.

💡 Mindset shift: Instead of asking “What if I’d bought sooner?”, start asking “What can I do now?” That simple reframe unlocks possibility, planning, and forward momentum.

2. Resentment: The Silent Killer in Couples and Portfolios

Resentment often builds under the surface—whether it’s frustration with a partner who wasn’t on board, or comparisons to friends who had family support. For couples, this emotional undercurrent can derail both relationships and financial goals.

Aaron shares a common dynamic: one partner deep-dives into podcasts and research, while the other is blindsided by a “we should buy this” conversation out of nowhere.

Jodie explains the importance of alignment, especially in partnerships:

“You can’t build a house with two different blueprints.”

🎯 Practical step: Don’t just talk strategy. Talk values. Ask each other:

  • What does financial freedom mean to us?

  • What season of life are we in—and what’s realistic right now?

  • What’s most important for our family in the next 12 months?

These conversations create shared vision, not division.

3. Resilience: The Real Investor Advantage

What’s the difference between investors who give up after one burst hot water system—and those who keep growing despite setbacks?

Resilience.

And here’s the twist: Jodie says resilience isn’t about being hit repeatedly and bouncing back. It’s about managing your own well-being so you can stay in a positive state more often. That’s where good decisions get made.

“Resilience is about taking care of your well-being—so you can make good choices more often.”

Aaron calls this wealth-being: your mental state is closely tied to your financial reality. When you’ve got buffers in the bank, you sleep better. When you’re redlining, even small issues feel overwhelming.

🛠 Resilience-building habits:

  • Check your self-talk: is it solution-focused or stuck in negativity?

  • Strengthen your relationships: resilience is often borrowed from the people around you.

Accept that pain is part of the game—and learn to move through it, not avoid it.

4. Clarity: Knowing What You Really Want (And Why)

So many investors chase portfolios without stopping to ask: what am I actually working toward?

Clarity isn’t just about how many properties you want. It’s about understanding:

  • Who you want to be

  • What kind of life you’re building

  • What your values are—and whether your financial decisions align with them

Aaron reflects on his own journey—balancing business success with being a present father and partner. He admits he’s struggled to celebrate wins or feel like he’s “made it,” because the to-do list is never-ending.

Jodie offers a simple but powerful reframe:

“You are enough. You have enough. And from here, anything else is a bonus.”

🌱 Actionable tip: Define your version of “rich moments.” It could be time with your kids, walking the beach, or sleeping well knowing your mortgage is covered. These moments fuel contentment—and help you avoid the burnout that comes from endless striving.

5. Connection: The Real Wealth Multiplier

Ultimately, investing isn’t a solo game. And while many focus on financial ROI, Jodie and Aaron highlight emotional ROI: the strength of your relationships.

Connection means:

  • Staying civil and kind to your partner (even more than you would to a stranger)

  • Feeling seen and supported by your broker, buyer’s agent, or financial team

  • Belonging to a community where your wins are celebrated—not judged

Aaron’s Property Accelerator community is a perfect example. It’s not just about sharing property tips—it’s about being surrounded by like-minded people who get it.

“If you’re listening and you lack community or accountability, that’s what the Accelerator is here for. There’s no advice, just people walking the journey with you.”

👥 Connection builds:

  • Confidence

  • Motivation

  • Perspective

It also gives you a safe space to explore ideas, challenges, and growth without judgment.

The Inner Game of Wealth

Aaron sums it up beautifully:

“This game is won and lost in the mindset.”

You can have the borrowing capacity, the cash, and the strategy—but if your mindset isn’t dialed in, you won’t make the most of the opportunities in front of you.

If this episode stirred something in you—whether it’s a desire for more alignment, more self-compassion, or a stronger community—start there.

✅ Talk to your partner about your values.
 ✅ Reflect on what season of life you’re in.
 ✅ Join a community that supports growth without pressure.
 ✅ And most importantly, give yourself the grace to be a work in progress.

Want to build your resilience and clarity as an investor?

Whether you’re a first home buyer trying to get over the deposit hurdle, or a seasoned investor planning your next move — having the right lending strategy is key.

💬 Contact the team at Atelier Wealth — we’ll help you structure your finance for success, make the most of what’s available to you, and find a path forward in any market.

📣 Want to join a community of growth-focused property investors?
 DM us “Accelerator” and we’ll share how to get involved.